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Are you in sin if you are depressed?

Are you in sin if you are depressed?

I am not an expert in psychiatry or psychology – not even close.  But I have lived with someone who suffered deeply from psychiatric issues.  My dad was diagnosed as a “bi-polar, manic-depressive, paranoid schizophrenic.” The last 30-plus years of his life were marked by his mental illness.  He lost his family, his ministry, and many of his friends.  I am certainly not a professional in the mental health field, but I have a deep personal interest in this subject.

I narrow the focus of this article to the issue of depression.  What is its cause?  I approach this question from the perspective of one hurt by its devastating effects on the family as well as one who is firmly committed to the promises of God’s word.  I have walked a long, personal road trying to discern the answer to the question of the cause of depression.  It is exceedingly personal to me. After all, am I destined to be like my dad if my chemical makeup is deficient?  Conversely, does God’s word promise me that by walking in the Spirit I won’t suffer under the blanket of depression?  After all, the fruit of the Spirit is joy, among other things, right?  It is my contention that there are at least three categories of depression.  But first, some points of clarification are in order and are as follows:

  • My interests are personal, pastoral, and Scriptural.
  • My illustrations are anecdotal – not tested in a professional, therapeutic setting.
  • My journey on this issue has been motivated by my personal need to be assured that it is not inevitable that I become like my dad.
  • I wish to offend NO ONE who suffers from the smothering effects of depression.
  • My perspective may be wrong on one or more points related to this subject.

I will state each category of depression below, offer a description and then suggest options for treatment.

 

Category 1: Clinical Depression – chronic experience of depression.  Treatments may include medicine as well as therapeutic counseling.

A friend of mine, Carisa Wilsie, PhD., a professional in the field of psychology, offers the following short description of clinical depression:

“Clinical depression is a mood disorder in which feelings of sadness, loss, anger or frustration interfere with everyday life for weeks or longer. The exact cause of clinical depression is not known, but many researchers believe it is caused by chemical changes in the brain.”

All creation has been deeply affected by the fall.  Humans suffer physically (illness, disease and death) as well as spiritually.  But that’s not all.  We are also susceptible to illness emotionally.  Modern advancements in medicine allow us to medically treat all sorts of physical illnesses and diseases that in the past would not have been treated appropriately.  Should we not take advantage of advancements in treating clinical depression when the case warrants it?  One more note on this category – I personally believe that one may be predisposed to certain maladies of the body or mind (emotions), perhaps even actions, but not necessarily have to experience them.  Could it be that multiple factors contribute to triggering the chemical changes in a person resulting in clinical depression?  This one reality, in my understanding, provides the open door on this issue for my understanding of the promises of God’s word to enter in.  In other words, yes, I may be predisposed to clinical depression.  I may even have an environment with stresses that might typically trigger this malady in me; however, could it equally be true that based on how I respond to these stresses is a determining factor, or at least aids in NOT actually getting clinically depressed.  What if I continue to spiritually battle the negativity and stresses pressed upon my life with the truth of God’s Promises?  Could it be that a laser focus on passages such as Isaiah 26:3-4, 2 Timothy 1:7, and Philippians 4:4-9 might actually beat back the onset of clinical depression?  I think so – at least for me.

 

Category 2: Idolatrous Depression – something we idolize is being threatened or removed from our lives leaving us with a deep feeling of depression, treated with repentance and realignment of priorities and passions. 

My pastor, Dr. Rick Thompson, recently said, “We are constantly putting things at the center of our hearts that are not God … Anything that we put at the center of our hearts that is not God will condemn us.”  For example, if we have the idol of vocational success, then if that success does not happen as we hoped it would, then we are depressed.  I am reminded of the rich young ruler who asked Jesus about what it took to gain eternal life (Matthew 19:16).  He had put the idol of possessions and wealth at the center of his value system so that when Jesus told him to go sell all he had and give it to others the young man “went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions” (v.22).  Notice how when the removal of his idol was threatened, he was deeply and emotionally affected.  We might even say that he walked away depressed, if that is not too much of a stretch.

We could use any myriad of examples here (idols of our children, serenity, ease, pleasures, etc. – See http://vimeo.com/70732978 for fuller explanation – starting at the 14 minute mark).

I certainly have experienced this type of depression.  Time and again, I have had things that I have elevated as a priority over my valuing of God.  It seems to happen so easily and many times imperceptibly – until what I want doesn’t happen, and I find myself depressed.  Upon evaluation, I realize that I have actually looked to something or someone for fulfillment instead of looking to the Lover of my soul, the Lord Jesus.  Instead, I need to change my focus to line up with Scripture. 

Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you” (Psalm 73:25, ESV).

But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ” (Philippians 3:7, ESV).

 

Category 3: Reactive Depression – a depression that is a reaction to life’s challenges or pressures treated with the ministry of the Holy Spirit through the word of God, treated through the encouragement of the saints and prayer, treated by a deep meditation on the person and work of Christ and the reality that there is a better day coming (Revelation 21:1-5), treated through therapeutic counseling.

To quote Carisa again, “The reaction to pressures we label diagnostically as adjustment disorder, a much less serious diagnosis where mood is temporary due to a life circumstance.”

I like to think of this as an entering into the universal groaning of the world (Romans 8:20-23) due to death of a loved one, personal pain and suffering, opposition from wicked people, pressures of ministry and life, etc.  Biblical examples of this might be seen in the following passages:

  • 1 Kings 19:1-4 – Elijah was depressed after the drama on Mt. Carmel and subsequent threats on his life.
  • Job 6:8-9 & 7:1-11 – Job suffered greatly and was in deep distress, yet Scripture tells us that in all this he did not sin.
  • Lamentations 1:16 – Jeremiah (?) writing soon after the destruction of Jerusalem.
  • Mark 14:32-36 – Jesus in the Garden on the eve of His crucifixion.
  • 2 Corinthians 1:8 & 2 Corinthians 11:28 – Paul describing his experiences as an evangelist and servant of Christ.

I have experienced this type of temporary depression – a kind that comes and goes periodically due to the pressures and stresses of life.  When my dad was still alive, there were times that I would be depressed simply dealing with the verbal abuse and ongoing challenges he brought into my life.  When I was the sole individual (in concert with my wife) making end-of-life decisions for my dad, coordinating the funeral, co-preaching the funeral and singing…I suffered bouts of depression.  I was not clinically depressed, nor was I depressed because an idol was being removed from my life; rather, I was groaning inwardly because of the immediate expressions of brokenness that were being perpetrated upon me.  I have felt depression after ministering to others who are deeply grieving the loss of a child or a spouse.  The weight of the sorrows of others taps into the deep wounds of my own history, and I grieve and sometimes experience a short time of depression.  Often on Mondays, I experience the “pastoral Monday blues.”  This is more common than one might imagine among those who are serving Christ’s church.  All these experiences of mine – these bouts of depression – are temporary.  My only saving graces are the reminders of God’s promises, the comfort of the Holy Spirit, the re-orientation of my focus onto Jesus, and the encouragement of the saints.  Oh, and sometimes getting out and enjoying nature along with my family helps. 

 

Conclusion: So, are you in sin if you are depressed?  Perhaps – perhaps not.  Is it inevitable that someone will suffer from clinical depression due to the genetic makeup of the individual?  Not so sure.  All I know is, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” (Psalm 73:26, ESV).

Adoption: Three perspectives from the raw edge of reality

Adoption: Three perspectives from the raw edge of reality

My wife and I adopted all four of our children (ages 3, 5, 7, and 10).  The three youngest are biological siblings who came out of an horrific situation of neglect.  Our eldest was in the custody of OKDHS from birth through age five.  Prior to coming to our home, he had been in over 20 placements.  All four, though not entering our family through biological processes, have been “born out of our hearts” of love.  The eldest was first in line with his adoption finalized in 2009.  The others were adopted one year ago yesterday.

So, pretty neat story, right?  After all, only a calloused and extremely cynical person would hate adoption or not appreciate a good example of children being rescued and placed in a loving home.  Here we approach the first perspective on adoption:

  • Adoption looks lovely.

Yes, adoption certainly DOES look lovely.  It is beautiful to hear the accounts of children being changed from orphans to sons and daughters.  Just the other day I watched an adopted child spend time with her family.  This precious one used to live her life locked away in a closet. But she was discovered, put up for adoption, and made a part of a loving, Christ-centered family.  She is now thriving, full of life and is a joy to be around.  Does this not remind us of our condition of spiritual captivity prior to being rescued by Christ?  As followers of Jesus, we see human adoption set against the backdrop of the Gospel itself.  After all, the Father in Heaven adopted all those who are in Christ and has made them part of His family (Ephesians 1:4-5).  Each time we see human adoption and sense its beauty, we should thank our Heavenly Father for our spiritual adoption in Christ. 

But adoption does not come without a price.  There are “ashes” before “beauty.” For Jesus the price was excruciating – truly, a cross. That’s what it took to rescue spiritual orphans held captive in darkness.  Jesus paid the ultimate price to bring us in. This leads us to our second perspective on adoption:

  • Adoption looks painful.

When we look at Jesus we see that this corresponds to reality.  But it is also true of human adoption.  Jesus went to the cross.  Adoptive parents must take up their cross and choose daily to love and serve children who may not have the capacity to receive the love offered.  What if the “normal” behavior of the child adopted is more similar to a raging tornado than a gentle breeze?  I will tell you “what if.”  We have experienced the painful side of adoption.  Our home that once was an oasis of joy and serenity, at least more often than not, is now more chaotic than not.  Pain enters as we realize that our home resembles a war zone more than a place of respite.  Pain is a reality when the office is more restful than home.  Pain is a reality when one child begins to get resentful because of the chronic, disruptive, manipulating, and downright intentionally hurtful and mean behaviors of other children in the home.  Pain enters when we get to the place where we are tempted to count the years we have left with a child before they can leave the home – longing for the time when they will.  Pain enters when we realize that every tool we try to implement in order to help the wounded child comes up short – ineffective.  There IS a painful side to adoption. 

Is there a path forward?  Is all hope lost for recovery of adoption in a challenging situation?  Well, I suppose time will have to bear ultimate witness to this; however, I do want to offer a third perspective on adoption that peers into the future.  This perspective is as follows:

  • Adoption looks hopeful.

We believe that God brought our children to us…that He personally hand picked them to be our sons and daughters.  This understanding, coupled with our absolute trust that God truly does work all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28), causes us to look ahead with faith and hope that rests not in our own abilities, for those have proven futile, but in the abilities of God Himself (Ephesians 3:20-21).  After all, is it not He who has the ability to take dry bones and cover them with flesh and make what was dead come to life (Ezekiel 37:1-14)?  Does not the Lord Jesus possess “immeasurable power” and reign supreme over all authorities (Ephesians 1:20-22)?  Can He not transform lives?  We believe He can – and often does.  These truths we hold on to with a sometimes faltering, sometimes sure hope that God will break through – that He will rescue – that He will save – that He will heal our children and our home.  We remain committed to our children in the hope that God will create beauty in them as He draws them to Jesus, saves them, and heals them in the wounded places of their lives.  This is our firm commitment and hope.

Changing Orphans to Sons and Daughters

Changing Orphans to Sons and Daughters

In Ephesians 1:5 we read, “he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ.”  This statement is number two in Paul’s presentation of the spiritual blessings for those who are in Christ.  It is vitally connected to the first blessing in Paul’s list – that of being “chosen in him before the foundation of the world (v.4).”  Setting aside the theological differences between those inclined toward a reformed (or otherwise) interpretation of this passage let’s simply look at Paul’s actual point.  He is trying to get Christians in Asia Minor to understand the blessed reality of who they are in Christ.  In the two verses above Paul is making the point that God picked them and decided to adopt them.

Paul is using adoption language to help us understand salvation.  After all, in human adoption prospective parents look for a child and then choose that child for adoption – prior to the child’s knowledge.  The parents then pursue that child ending in the transformation of a child’s status from “orphan” to a “son” or “daughter.”  Is this not in the spiritual realm what God has done for us in Christ?  Is this not Paul’s point?

What is described above is a Gospel-foundation for moving toward the orphan.  Just as our heavenly Father brought us into His family, even so, we seek to bring orphans into our families.  We believe that in doing so we display the heart of our adoptive heavenly Father.

God is doing something in our day – not something new; rather, renewed – for the purpose of His glory being seen as His people change orphans to sons and daughters.  It’s one thing to theorize and even sympathize about the plight of the orphan.  It’s an even deeper thing to go visit the orphan (overseas mission trip or local work of some sort).  More impactful still is when a Christ-centered, Jesus lover brings an orphan home and changes that orphan to a son or daughter.

So how do we move toward the orphan?  Do we even see where they are?  Certainly we know there are orphans internationally.  We’ve seen the pictures, heard the sad stories, perhaps even shed a tear, offered a prayer or donation of funds.  But have we really seen the “orphans” who live next door?  We more typically call these children a more common label: Foster Kids.

Did you know that about 500,000 kids are in the US foster system?  Of that amount approximately 120,000 are available for adoption.  In Oklahoma there are nearly 10,000 kids in state’s care.  In Oklahoma County alone there are nearly 3,000.  Did you know that over 1,000 kids in OKDHS care have a permanency goal of adoption?  The orphan lives next door.

God has called His church to “care for widows and orphans in their distress (James 1:27).”  He has also told us to love our neighbors as ourselves (Mark 12:31).  Jesus is not simply talking about social ministry.  Let us also not forget the directive to make disciples of ALL nations (people groups).  When you mix all these biblical commands together and consider the legal orphans among us can we have any other response than to engage in orphan care evangelism?  When we change the physical status of an orphan to a son or daughter we are bringing the mission into our living rooms, into the core center of who we are.  Going on mission is great.  Bringing the mission home is even better.

In an attempt to help the church move toward legal orphans in our state Council Road Baptist Church hosted the Oklahoma Foster Care Forum on April 25.  The event, in partnership with Project 111, included a pastor’s breakfast.  Nearly 50 pastor’s and ministry leaders enjoyed delicious food, and fellowship and were encouraged to consider helping their church move toward the orphan.  About 350 people attended the Forum itself.  Ministry leaders, including Micah Kersh (Henderson Hills), state leaders, former foster kids, and current foster parents made presentations that helped participants understand more clearly the needs of kids at risk in our own state.  For more information about this event or to discover ways to get involved contact James Hunt at jhunt@councilroad.org.